WOW! This can create a lot of anxiety and doubt in our ability to write, interfere with our relationships with others, and begin to doubt everything we do. Worry Not! We all have doubts when we begin to write and lose a little confidence, but you can move past these roadblocks and hurdle over the doubts and assumptions to reach your writing goal of completion.
Fear of Rejection
This fear is real and frightening to writers. You get half way through a thriller, love story, or your finding on a reason for memory loss, etc. You delve into your book, outlining your story, adventure or findings, and you begin to think... What if no one likes my story, believes my plot or accepts my theory, what will I do then. Rejection rears its ugly head and stares you in the face.
Your stomach gets queasy and you start convincing yourself these thoughts and feelings are valid... Hogwash! It is just our subconscious working overtime and creating havoc with our imagination. We should know better, but we succumb to fear of rejection.
What we need to do in this case is review our attributes, we’ve been writing for years, why, and all of a sudden we feel uncomfortable with our writing, or unsure of our quality of writing? No reason for this feeling, but our subconscious has blown this emotion out of control and now we have begun to doubt our talent. Yes, talent. Not everyone can write! Not everyone has a talent for writing with emotion and feeling transferable to our readers, and not everyone has the experience to write, translate ideas, emotions and actions into words that move thousands of people.
Let go of your inhibitions, release your fears, and send your doubts on a one-way trip of no return and get back into your writing arena.
Fear of How Others Judge You?
Of course, you are going to be judged by others. Whether you write, play soccer, compete in bridge tournaments, or style people’s hair in a salon, you are going to be judged. Come to the party, judging others is a pass-time with people. Judging you leaves people little time to judge themselves.
Seriously, it is okay to be judged and it should not bother you. You will have people reviewing your manuscript for interest, error, and judgment of your story and skill. These areas are helpful judgment areas, so relax, listen to your important critics, and ignore the critics who are just people in the background. Believe in yourself, your skill, your story, and most of all, your talent. Move forward, accept criticism if it is productive criticism and let unnecessary criticism roll off your back like water off a duck. Press forward with your next steps for publication, review and sales.
Old Faithful, Procrastination, Rears Its Ugly Head!
This should be an easy one to overcome as we have procrastinated for decades about one thing or another. We have procrastinated about cleaning the home or apartment, doing the gardening chores, taking out the garbage, getting up for work on time, so why should writing be a different procrastination that any other.
We need to PLAN, SCHEDULE, and MOVE FORWARD without plans to write we will put off this task, other things will circumvent the plan to write. Writing also includes a certain amount of self-confidence. We often apply too much weight to the viewpoints of others and fall into a rut second guessing every phrase, which welcomes procrastination.
Select to set aside the viewpoints and comments of side-liners issuing the ‘you should...’ and ‘why don’t you...’ offenders. Eliminate the ‘If I were you, I would... contributors,’ and go with your instincts as a writer. It is your book, do it your way and get advice from professionals when you have your manuscript edited by a professional.
Put a completion date in your plan. Aim for this date, or aim to come close. If you miss the completion date, reset your calendar and set another date. If you do not set a completion date you will never reach completion.
It may take a while for your dates of reaching goals to come to fruition, but you will achieve this step. If you are not a planner it may be tough for you to change your unscheduled life to include meeting deadlines. Once you train yourself to meet deadlines and goals, writing will become much easier for you.
Fear of Failure
This is frightening and can be overwhelming at times. We work so hard all our lives to succeed at whatever we do and when failure enters the picture, it can be earthshaking to say the least.
My best advice for fear of failure is taking all the steps to ensure success by planning, researching, and visualizing your book as you have planned. Give this project your all, patiently and methodically move through your plan, double checking your schedule and progress. By doing this, giving it your all, and following-through, if failure happens, you can assure yourself that you did your best, planned for success, and aimed for completing goals. This is not a failure! This is success. Not everything in life works out.
Learn from failure, make note of where and how it failed, and move forward. Some of the most brilliant and wealthy people in the world have failed tremendously. Not from bad planning or mishaps, but many things fail through no fault of anyone.
Learn, regroup, and continue full speed ahead, no matter what, but believe in yourself and don’t let a minor mishap slow down your progress.